by Alyse Price-Tobler (mcap)

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WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU ASK SOMEONE, 'ARE YOU O.K?' AND THEY ANSWER 'NO?'

THE SEMPI SCM TEACHES THE NEXT STEP TO THE 'ARE YOU OK?' QUESTION. 

INTRODUCING THE QUESTION, ‘HOW IS YOUR SEMPI?'


HELLO, MY NAME IS ALYSE PRICE-TOBLER, AND I WOULD PERSONALLY LIKE TO THANK YOU FOR VISITING MY 

COMMUNITY EMPOWERING 'SEMPI SOCIAL COMMUNICATION MODEL' WEB PAGE!


THE SEMPI SOCIAL COMMUNICATION MODEL.

community version


BRIEF OVERVIEW

 HOW IS THE SEMPI SCM HELPING OUR COMMUNITIES TO HEAL?

The Aussie designed SEMPI SCM teaches and empowers any community member (child or adult) from any social class, how to have a deeper level of conversation, if you ask someone, ‘ARE YOU O.K?’ AND THEY SAY NO.  The ‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ (pronounced Sem-pie) has been developed primarily with the purpose of reducing ''the tribal stigma of race, nation, and religion" (Goffman, 1963) within our communities. 


  • The SEMPI SCM teaches THE NEXT STEP to the 'ARE YOU OK?' question, if this question feels too hard to sit with, feels confusing, or just doesn't feel right for the person saying 'NO.' 
  • The SEMPI SCM teaches community members, deeper level empathetic conversation skills, (in under 20 minutes), to instigate when someone is NOT OK and needs to talk straightaway.
  • The SEMPI SCM is written to teach community empowerment, reduce stigma and loneliness, and to save lives.
  • This SEMPI SCM has a ‘pay it forward' philosophy, so that is can get out into the community faster.
  • The SEMPI SCM works by having two people sit together, (a Listener, and a Sharer). The 'Sharer' asks the 'Listener' to run through the SEMPI SCM with them, and together they can speak about exactly what is happening in the 'Sharers' life, for them right now, then they can swap roles, and pay it forward!
  • The SEMPI SCM teaches 'Social and Emotional Learning' activities (SEL). 
  • The SEMPI SCM promotes a broader 'needs' and personal insight vocabulary. 
  • The SEMPI SCM strengthens the skills of communication, so that all parties feel heard, validated, and understood, while teaching practical listening skills, which are crucial to allowing community members to feel truly heard. Learning these skills may lead to a more equal social class power balance, while CROSSING RACE, CREED, AGE, COLOUR AND RELIGION.
  • The 'SSCM'  gives an immediate snapshot into a persons mental and physical health, right at that moment, so that a concise, and accurate plan can be devised if needed, by the 'Listener' and the 'Sharer', and then shared with a health care professional, when necessary.
  • The 'SEMPI SCM,' is designed to stop the loneliness, silence, stigma, and isolation, that exists within our communities AND CAN BE USED intergenerationally!
  • The SEMPI SCM is helping to create a world where people do not simply survive, but engage in a way that works to achieve invigorating internal and interpersonal satisfaction. 
  • The SEMPI SCM is currently being used within community to allow all members, no matter their story, to learn to have an empowered voice, while gaining insight into their own story. 
  • PLEASE NOTE, THE SEMPI SCM IS NOT a counselling model.
  • The SEMPI SCM community model version is FREE FOR EVERYONE!


Which countries are using The SEMPI SCM in right now?

The 'SEMPI SCM' is currently in America, Canada, Australia, and Fiji as of September 04, 2018. Add your country next!


Where is The SEMPI SCM being used right now?

The SEMPI pamphlets, are currently being shared with: patients in hospitals (children to elderly, in both general hospitals, and hospices in America) patients with serious mental illness, and their families in mental health facilities, schools, child abuse survivors, people with disabilities, people in domestic violence, homeless people, lgbtqi youth and adults, victims of assault, children experiencing separating parents, bullied school children, disaster victims, lonely people, people in correctional facilities, first responders, advocates, church groups, good Samaritans, medical staff, corporate professionals, as well as American serving soldiers in the Army (in particular Iraq and Afghanistan), Navy, Air force, and the Marines (around the world), and their families, through care and morale packages, distributed by @goodscrolls

                    

                So, what happens if you ask someone, 'Are You O.K?' and they say NO?

                           

                          INTRODUCING THE QUESTION, ‘HOW IS YOUR SEMPI?'



PLEASE PLAY THESE VIDEOS 

WHY I MADE SEMPI: Part 1 Intro: The first 6 minutes & 30 seconds, is my introduction explaining why I wrote the SEMPI model. 

SEMPI POWERPOINT: Part 2 Model begins: At 6 minutes & 35 seconds, the FULL SEMPI model starts (ALSO avail in free colorful  PDF, below).


Thank you to @taniarose_creative from Artscope Music & Management, for your photography and production skills, your kindness, your friendship, and for allowing me to use the amazing musical composition, 

known as 'DRIFT' in my above video. 

The SEMPI Social Communication Model
 Community version brochure

The SEMPI SCM is going to nursing homes, and hospices, children's hospitals, and hospices, homeless shelters, disaster victims, and to good Samaritans cross America, through care and morale packages distributed by @goodscrolls

The SEMPI SCM is also going out to current serving American soldiers, from the marines, the army, the navy, and the airforce, as well as returned veterans, through care and morale packages, distributed by @goodscrolls in America.


SEMPI SCM BASIC NEEDS GRAPH

 SEMPI 'needs identification graph'. 

Let's learn a bit more about the community empowering 'SEMPI Social Communication Model!'


 INTRODUCING THE QUESTION, ‘HOW IS YOUR SEMPI?'
While I was writing the ‘SSCM’, I decided to include a new solution in response to the question ‘Are you O.K?’ if the person says NO. I created a whole new angle, and an alternative solution to knowing what to do in this situation. This questions fills the gap if someone says ‘NO’ after being asked ‘Are You O.K?’
'HOW IS YOUR SEMPI?' is a deeper, more real invitation, asked by one person to another, (between ages three to adult), that covers 5 essential basic human needs (through the acronym SEMPI)
These are 1. SLEEP/SAFETY NEED- the need to rest.
The need to feel safe.
2. EMOTIONAL NEED- the need for love, empathy, and to matter.
3. MEET YOUR BASIC SURVIVAL NEEDS- the need for food, water, clothing and housing.
4. PHYSICAL BODY NEED- the need to feel physically well in our bodies.
5. INCLUSION NEED- The need to be included in your community.

​‘HOW IS YOUR SEMPI?’ comes with an in built, genuine offer for the ‘Listener’ to take the time, and empathise with the ‘Sharer’, consequently moving the conversation to a deeper level of care and understanding for each other’s perspectives!
‘HOW IS YOUR SEMPI?’ is a totally unique question that no one is used to hearing, so they cannot equate it to the question ‘ARE YOU O.K?’ Alyse.

WHY WAS THIS QUESTION DESIGNED?
‘HOW IS YOUR SEMPI?’ teaches adult community members how to easily move into deeper, more empathetic conversations, enabling everyone to feel heard & understood.
Each letter within the acronym 'SEMPI' covers all aspects of daily mental and physical health in an easy to use system. Children from age three can use the specifically designed children’s model, to learn how to speak about and understand themselves. They can also gain personal insight about how their bodies and minds are feeling from an early age, thereby reducing stigma and normalising talk around mental health. Children can speak about anything they choose, be it good or not so good, in their daily ‘SEMPI’ routine. They can share this model with adults, or other children, allowing everyone to reciprocally have a voice and feel heard!

PLEASE WATCH THE ACCOMPANYING YOU TUBE VIDEOS TO SEE SEMPI IN ACTION  

How can I see The SEMPI SCM being demonstrated with general community members?

You can also check out over 50 videos about SEMPI on You Tube, under SEMPI Social Communication Model!

https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=sempi+social+communication+model


WHY WAS THE SEMPI SOCIAL COMMUNICATION MODEL DESIGNED?
The 'SEMPI SCM has been designed to stop loneliness, isolation and stigma within our communities. This is achieved by teaching community members, deeper level empathetic conversation skills, (in under 20 minutes), to instigate when someone is NOT OK and needs to talk straightaway. The immediate implementation of these skills, allows the person to feel heard, validated and understood, which may reduce negative mental health symptoms, including loneliness, isolation, suicide, and stigma.  
 Social class 'cross over' of participants using this model, is invited, as it is my belief that by mixing up the social status participants, class barriers will come down, as deeper perspectives and empathetic understanding of each other’s lives become more understood. This idea matters because people need personal equality and freedom to thrive. The silence and imbalance of power within our society needs to be stopped, so that we all feel heard, validated and understood, while honoring each other. 

WOULD YOU KNOW WHAT TO DO IF YOU ASK SOMEONE,
​ 'ARE YOU O.K?' AND THEY ANSWER, 'NO.' ​
​The ‘SEMPI Social Communication Model’ has been written for ALL community members, from all walks of life! Imagine if people could learn to speak freely and honestly with a strong voice, about why they feel the way they do and what their individual needs are, while also believing that they will be heard when they do this.
This model has the power to teach this, and change the world!

HOW DOES 'SEMPI TEACH AND EMPOWER OUR COMMUNITIES WHILE SAVING THEIR COMMUNITIES MONEY?
The SEMPI SCM teaches people heart to heart conversation skills through an easy to use listening system, (NOT A COUNSELLING MODEL), so that they can confidently handle times when more deeper conversation skills are needed, enabling any community member, from age 8 up, to feel heard, validated and understood, right in that moment!
The ‘SSCM’ teaches a ‘Listener’ the skills to 'hold space' for a ‘Sharer’, (in under 20 mins). Mastering these new skills, allows the ‘Listener’ to teach the SSCM to the ‘Sharer’ so that they can take time to gain insight and awareness about themselves, while building personal resilience, improve self-esteem and coping strategies. Going through The SEMPI SCM will provide the ‘Sharer’ with time to explore the 5 'SEMPI entry words,' while empowering them to find their own answers so they can feel heard, validated and understood. It is hoped that by working through The SEMPI SCM, things will calm down for the person, so that they only need to access referral and crisis services if they feel they need more professional support. This also reduces the burden on our overloaded crisis care lines, saving government dollars, to be spent on improving community services elsewhere in their community.  The SEMPI SCM is created to be an aid for the community (not a replacement for professional help). Nor is it a counselling model. It is a listening model. Every day, I see a HUGE gap in the area of mental health self-care in the community due to escalating living costs and cuts to social services. This model is created with this in mind, to assist the community to work with their difficulties together, and be able to identify them early, so that their problems don't escalate to higher unmanageable levels, and enabling community money to be spent developing other programs.
Professional workers, and first responders are also able to use this model. I made a point to include first responders, as I was a fully accredited first responder Road Rescue Officer with the NSW State Emergency Service and I know full well what emergency responders need when it comes to feeling heard! I would have loved it if my family members had asked my, 'How's your SEMPI?' when I returned from an incident, so that I could have felt understood, and empathised with.
ALYSE'S BACKGROUND
I am a professional Psychotherapist/Counsellor with a Masters Degree in Psychotherapy and Counselling (MCAP). I have worked in front line Community Mental Health & Disabilities, for the past 32 years. I have walked with thousands of struggling community members and I have seen a lot! These amazing souls are the reason why I get out of bed every day. My passion is deep and I am a very driven and serious advocate for many of my clients. Giving my clients a voice to feel heard and empowered is why I have written this model. It is for them.
WHY IS MY CAMPAIGN IMPORTANT TO ME?
There is no other model like the ‘SSCM’ in the world!
It is very clear to me, that mental illness has become more prevalent and community resources are now at breaking point! Every day, as a practicing Psychotherapist, I see extreme levels of loneliness, low self-esteem and loss of hope. I see class division, segregation, judgmental behaviour, inequality, stigma, and discrimination. I have also designed The SEMPI SCM as a preventative measure, so that we as a society do not become mentally or emotionally unwell. It is my life’s mission to change this.

SUCCESSFUL TRACK RECORD
In my previous position, I was the Specialist Mental Health Disability Employment Services Area Manager for the Macarthur Region (West Sydney, Australia) for the Schizophrenia Fellowship of NSW (now known as ‘One Door.’) I created this arm of the business from scratch, to a five star rating. My position included finding, placing and supporting 200 plus clients with a mental health issue and or a disability to stay in employment with my team. I also employed and trained staff, liaised with affiliated community organisations, designed and maintained monthly budgets, advocated for our clients and worked closely with employers. I extended the initial DES contract to include a new ESS contract, bringing in even more clients, and making sure that the DES now had a bright future with long term viability. My proven background within the community, and my confidence in The SEMPI SCM to be a ground-breaking new way for society to become empowered, is extremely exciting. The SEMPI SCM is a culmination of my 33 years of professional experience and I am not stranger to hard work, nor do I have rose coloured glasses on when it comes to stigma reduction!

STIGMA REDUCTION
The SEMPI SCM is designed to work across all levels of stigma, including workplace stigma, mental health stigma, social class stigma, disability stigma and social stigma (physical, behavioural, intellectual and group). It teaches each person an easy to remember sequential task that they can adapt to suit their own personal stories, and then pay it forward.

CAN PEOPLE WITH A DISABILITY AND OR MENTAL HEALTH CHALLENGE USE THE  ‘SSCM’?
People living with all types of disabilities, and mental health challenges can use The SEMPI SCM to feel heard! the SEMPI SCM has been tested extensively, and taught and shared within communities, both here in Australia, and overseas to gain feedback and advice as to how to improve the model. Some of the people who have been taught The SEMPI SCM have downs syndrome, autism, are women and men who are experiencing homelessness, people with an intellectual disability, cerebral palsy, hearing impairment and within palliative care units. 
The SEMPI SCM also assists the carers, advocates, and nursing staff who work with the elderly, to listen to their patients, so that the patients then have a voice and feel heard. The SEMPI SCM is also indicated to be one answer to the current lack of time being given in nursing homes to patients, leading the patients to be being over medicated to keep their behaviours settled, as per the current research “RedUSe: reducing antipsychotic and benzodiazepine prescribing in residential aged care facilities” Juanita L Westbury, Peter Gee, Tristan Ling, Donnamay T Brown, Katherine H Franks, Ivan Bindoff, Aidan Bindoff and Gregory M Peterson Med J Aust || doi:10.5694/mja17.00857 Published online: 14 May 2018

WHAT RESEARCH HAS BEEN PERFORMED TO VALIDATE THE RESULTS OF THE 'SSCM?' 
I initially discussed The SEMPI SCM with women in Sydney who were experiencing primary homelessness, while living with mental and physical health issues in 2016. I chose this group as they knew me and trusted me from when I was researching my Master’s degree thesis on stigma at the Reverend Bill Crews 'Exodus Foundation' in Ashfield NSW, known as ‘A qualitative analysis to investigate the varied responses from the female primary homeless as evident in demonstrations of stigma from the general public’ in September 2016. The women's response to The SEMPI SCM was amazing, and once they had learnt the model they then ‘paid it forward’ and taught the other women from my prototype booklets. I made changes according to their recommendations, and then went back for a review and further changes as necessary. The women reported that The SEMPI SCM went a long way to allowing them to feel heard, validated, and understood. I was thrilled! We had cracked the code together!
Today, I teach, and share the SEMPI SCM in groups, and with my clients, so that they can leant it, and teach it to their friends, and family members. Clients from all parts of the community, with all different challenges come to me, and each one of them have learnt, and pay forward the model within their communities, no matter what their ability. 


HOW CAN I OBTAIN THE FREE SEMPI SCM PDF BROCHURE?

The SEMPI SCM can be sent to organisations through a FREE PDF to share, and teach to any community members, who would like to feel heard by others. Small SEMPI SCM groups are being formed across the world, so that you do not have to wait to talk to someone. Find out how to start one today! 

Jump over to the brochure order page for your FREE PDF!



A PERSONAL NOTE FROM ALYSE 
THANK YOU FOR READING ALL THE WAY DOWN TO HERE! I believe passionately in equal rights and a world without discrimination. In my professional life, I advocate daily on behalf of people living with mental health challenges and or a disability, to ensure that everyone feels included and supported within their work places, and all other areas among their community.  I wrote The SEMPI SCM so that ALL community members could start to feel heard, and included, to learn deeper empathy, and listening skills, and to start to break down barriers.
 If this happens, we will  start to caring more deeply for each other, no matter what our status is in society.
 
The SEMPI SCM has been developed to allow ANYONE who is feeling bullied, experiencing stigma, NOT FEELING HEARD, OR VALUED, within their community, to have a voice, and be able to speak clearly about what they need and want for themselves. 
Please, if you like or use The SEMPI SCM, please teach it to others. 
The SEMPI SCM and is based on an altruistic, reciprocal, pay it forward philosophy. 

 I will never stop until there is equality in my lifetime, as I believe that we are fundamentally all the same. Thank you, Alyse. 

HOW'S YOUR SEMPI?
Please HELP TO PAY SEMPI FORWARD!!!

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